Whether you’ve been with your partner for years or you just met, mutual masturbation is the perfect way to spice up your pleasure.
Anyone who’s ever successfully masturbated can vouch for its incredible benefits and wonderful feelings that come along with it. However, even though all of this is common knowledge, masturbation is still shunned away in the dark. More often than not, people pretend that masturbation is a lonely and dirty act that only desperate people do. Some might even go as far as saying that they feel cheated on if their partner masturbates.
Luckily, I’m here to rescue you from this BS mentality and tell you that masturbation is a beautiful act that allows you to explore and pleasure yourself like nothing else. It’s also common practice amongst most of the adult population.
So why not involve your partner the next time you masturbate? It is the best way to show your partner what you like, and as a result, there is a high chance that your partner will be turned on too. Let’s break it down and see how mutual masturbation is going to become your favourite Sunday Funday activity 😉
What is Mutual Masturbation?
Basically, mutual masturbation is when two individuals masturbate simultaneously in front of each other. So to paint the picture, you and your partner find a nice comfy spot together, and you both touch yourselves at the same time.
The idea here is to show your partner how you like to be touched, and what makes you orgasm. But the benefits of mutual masturbation do not stop there!
Why should I be doing it?
Mutual masturbation strips away all the shame and negativity typically associated with solo play. This raw experience can be an excellent way to bond with your partner by increasing your trust and confidence in one another. It will also give you time to appreciates each others beauty in the most intimate and exposed way. So, all in all, it will strengthen your relationship.
If you’ve been with your partner for a while, mutual masturbation just might be the easiest way to spice up for sex life. It will encourage you to break down your regular routine and find yourself in a new playground with new adventures. It is also the perfect solution to lazy sex, the type where you’re horny but too tired to actually have sex.
In addition to all that, being watched or watching your partner are both turn-ons in their own nature. It’s almost like you are part of a live porno, the only difference is that the other person involved is someone you genuinely like.
Lastly, it’s pretty safe to assume that nearly all those trying mutual masturbation will climax. In contrast, sex might not always lead to a triumphant orgasm.
How do I even bring it up?
This really depends on your character. If you’re the more confident and dominant type, you could easily just ask your partner to do it. But, if you’re a bit more shy or don’t really know how to approach it, the easiest way is to wait until you’re getting it on.
When you or your partner initiate intimacy, go along with your usual foreplay. Try to keep things a bit slow to allow yourself time to become more comfortable with the whole situation. Then, as things get a bit more heated, simply look at your partner and say “I want to show you something.” Reach out to your favourite masturbation technique and say “this is how I touch myself when I’m horny. I want to see how you do it too.”
Now, these are just ideas, so don’t panic if you go off script! The whole point here is to give you that first push to bring up the subject.
But does it even count as sex?
Sex, my dear is what you make it. Many think that sex only occurs when there is penetration between two individuals. However, sex is simply an intimate act done between people, that often leads to an orgasm. Now it’s up to you if you’d like mutual masturbation to be your main course or just the starter —either way it’s guaranteed to bring about lots of pleasure and fun.
Got any more tips?
Don’t I always? 😉 Seriously though, when you do bring it up, don’t be afraid of doing what you like. That means that if you like using a vibrator then go for it, or if you like to caress your breasts and play with your nipples go for it!
Keep in mind that when you are with your partner, you’re in your own little bubble, and this should make you feel safe to explore any areas you wish. Plus most partners will find this to be a great turn on and are very likely to join in the fun.
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