I’ve honestly typed in the intro a million times. But no matter how I worded it, I felt like I was not highlighting my message enough. So here it goes, women masturbate, and it’s ok! There I said it.
Yet somehow, female masturbation is still a taboo topic that most women shy away from. And I’m gonna go ahead and blame society for this. For making it acceptable for men to have a sex drive and boast about it, but giving women a slap on the wrist if they express theirs. For years, women have been nurtured to hide away their sexual desires and needs, especially when it comes to solo play.
In many religions and cultures, this idea teaches young girls that female masturbation is a sin. They scare away girls from touching their own bodies saying that solo play will make them bad people and could result in physical damage to their bodies.
Now I write this with great passion because I was one of those young girls fed these bizarre ideas about solo play. But having grown out of that mentality and explored my sexuality, I can safely say that all of the above is pure BS! And, I have the science to prove it. So here is the reality of female masturbation:
1. Lots of Women Masturbate
A Portuguese study done in 2012 recorded that a whopping 91% of the women in their group had masturbated at some point in their life and 63% of them had masturbated within the last month. But despite these favourable numbers, many other studies have shown quite the opposite with an exceptionally low percentage of women admitting that they have masturbated.
This drastic difference in results is probably linked to the shame and guilt associated with female masturbation. In fact, many researchers believe that their data might not reflect the truth because their participants might have been shy to answer truthfully. And unfortunately, there is no ethical way to confirm their answer.
2. Women masturbate for different reasons
It’s easy to assume that women only masturbate because well they’re horny, which in fact was the motivation for 65% of the women in the Portuguese study. However, a couple of other reasons were relatively common too. 32% of the women in the survey said that they masturbate to cope with stress, while another 20% claimed that masturbating helped them get a better night’s sleep.
Surprisingly enough, only 8.6% said that they masturbate because they didn’t have a partner.
3. Female masturbation does NOT replace sex
Contrary to a common belief, masturbating does not reduce your desire to have sex. On the contrary, it is often seen as a bonus for increasing your sexual pleasure. In fact, female masturbation has been linked to greater sexual satisfaction in relationships (Coleman, 2002)
4. Solo play has Plenty of Benefits
Apart from the fact that it just feels terrific, self-love has a whole lot of advantages. Firstly, orgasms release endorphins (aka. your happy hormones), so masturbating will give you a more joyful mood. Secondly, masturbating creates an intimate and safe bubble for you to explore your body, pleasures, and fantasies. This will eventually build a positive relationship with yourself based on self-love and acceptance.
Solo play will increase your sexual libido and interest in your partner. Research has also shown that women who masturbate are more like to take control and feel confident during sex. It can also relieve stress, menstrual pain and sleeping problems. And lastly, it can be an excellent workout for your heart and pelvic floor.
5. There are so many different ways to masturbate
Pleasuring yourself does not have to be boring either! There are quite a few options for you to choose when it comes masturbating ranging from vibrators, dildos or showerheads, and the old but gold hand technique. As a general rule, most women prefer direct clitoral stimulation when masturbating or internal clitoral stimulation known as the g-spot.