Ok so… Remember that one time when you got drunk with your girlfriends, and you played Never Have I Ever?
Someone probably said, “never have I ever had anal sex”.
And you all started giggling, looking around thinking that no one has even thought about trying it.
But to your surprise, one of the girls took a shot and said: “I have.”
Now two things could have happened next: (A) The girl was asked a million questions, or (B) everyone pretended like they didn’t see her drink.
Whichever scenario happened next simply shows that anal sex is still considered to be a taboo. But the reality is that
1 in every 3 heterosexual couples in the US are having Anal Sex
So if the statistics are real, then why is everyone so afraid to talk about the pleasures of the booty hole? The reality is that most heterosexual couples do not really understand how anal sex works. So there are a lot of misconceptions.
Some women who have never had anal sex might view those who have had anal sex as “dirty”. While others are worried that anal sex is extremely painful, or simply an act done to please men.
Now, don’t get us wrong, we don’t blame you if you think that way too.
Unfortunately, anal sex in porn or movies is portrayed as a dirty act. Something that only men could desire and that there are very few girls who are willing to do it.
But as you should know by now, the reality is very different than what you see in porn or in the movies. In fact, studies have shown that when done correctly and respectfully, anal sex is pleasurable for both partners. More importantly
Anal sex can strengthen the relationship between the two individuals, by harbouring trust
And there are actually quite a few more myths about anal sex:
1. MYTH: Women do not enjoy anal sex
TRUTH: If anal sex is planned and consensual, women will enjoy it just as much as men.
Contrary to popular belief, the pleasure of anal sex does not only come from the Prostate (a gland found in men). In fact, the anus has a lot of nerve endings that can create the sensation of pleasure.
This means that women can genuinely enjoy anal sex, with some even achieving orgasm through it.
But having said that, there are few things to keep in mind. Firstly just like any other act, anal sex has to be consensual from both partners. And secondly, it can not be rushed.
Unlike the vagina, the anus does not self lubricate, so you will need to use a generous amount of lube and stimulation before putting anything in.
Pro-Tip: When it comes to anal sex, you need to be as relaxed as possible, and you need a partner that will pay attention to your response. So we recommend that you choose your sexual partner carefully, ideally someone that you can trust.
2. MYTH: Poop will come out
TRUTH: Again, if anal sex is consensual and planned, you do not have to worry about your poop getting anywhere.
If you want to have anal sex you should take some time to get ready for it. And by this, we mean empty your bowels and take a shower before having sex. Some experts recommend the use of an enema to clean out your rectum thoroughly.
A little side note: If you are going to use an enema, make sure to read the package instructions well. Especially the part about how long it takes to work, you don’t want to have any accidents.
3. Your booty hole gets stretched out
TRUTH: The Anus is a muscle, and it will contract back to its original size after sex.
There’s not much else to add to this. Your anus will return to its normal shape and size after sex, just like your vagina.
So how do you feel about anal sex now that you know more about it? Is it something that you’d try or have already tried?
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